Learning to Obey: For those who have been involved or interested in BDSM, you have probably have heard the phrase “topping from the bottom”. It refers to where the sub is telling the Domme what to do to him/her. This is something i have been guilty of for years. It may not always have been blatant, but it was still there, (but all too often it was blatant.) i might start by telling MD, what my fantasy was and then hoping or requesting that She would fulfill it. It may pressuring Her to do something or purchasing a new toy and hoping She would use it on me. The frenzy of my desires often overshadowed Her enjoyment of being the Domme.
I say this in light of yesterday where I watched from across a restaurant bar as my beautiful MD was on a first date with a potential new lover. They had talked online and on the phone but this was a lunch date to see if things clicked. After about an hour, MD texted me and told me to come join then. MD and “Sam” had a wonderful lunch and She informed me that they would be seeing more of each other. We had a few more minutes of conversation as MD paid for my lunch and then we prepared to leave. Mr Sam walked her to our car and as i started it, they kissed several times and then MD and i left. You could see on Her face that MD had a nice time. In the past i would have peppered Her with questions and tried to work out arrangements for them to get together soon. She told me about the date, but i didn’t make any suggestions about when they could get together again. She asked if i was ok and if i had any questions. i told MD it seemed different this time. Now, it wasn’t about me enjoying the thrill of seeing Her with someone, this time it was all about Her pleasure and if She wanted to move forward, i was all for it, but there would be no pressure from me. MD smiled when i told Her that. This was a big change for me, this time i was not “trying to top from the bottom”.
Obeying is not only about doing what you are told and serving your Masteress, it is also about developing a mindset where Her priorities and desires are foremost in your mind. That is where i am trying to grow and develop to be the best sh i can be to Her.
Relationship – this paragraph is the same at each posting:
As of 4/7/14, my relationship with my Wife of 16 years, changed from me being naturally submissive to Her to one where we now live fulltime in a “Wife Led Marriage” (WLM) relationship. She is now in total control of all financial, life and daily decisions. She is recognized as the unquestioned authority of our marriage and my life. My role is to be the “sh” to Her “MD”. “sh” is Her way of reminding me that i am Her “sissy”, “submissive”, “servant” and “slave” husband. The MD is “Masteress D (Her name)” or “My Domme”.