A Play Party: MD and i went to a private dungeon party this weekend in Dallas. This was our first time at an actual bondage and discipline dungeon. We had been to some smaller demonstrations before, but this was a large facility with numerous “activities” going on all at the same time. We were there a couple of hours just walking around and observing, (and i will add that, MD looked very hot!) Afterward we went to get drinks and something to eat and discussed what we observed. Even though there were people naked or semi naked getting spanked or put into bondage, neither of us felt it was a very erotic scene, but if was fascinating. There was a difference though in what we observed to be couples playing together and those who had “negotiated” play. (This is where a Dom/Domme and sub negotiate a scene and act it out but don’t have a true relationship.) Though it sounds weird, the couples playing together seemed to have a true tenderness about them – (as they beat the shit out of the other!) You could tell by the way they interacted in between the blows. They would take time to caress or touch where the sub had been struck or where the next blow was going to be placed.
There were a multitude of different “devices” that could be used by the participants at the event. There were flogs, whips, canes, paddles, etc., as well as, X-crosses, spanking benches, cages, tables, chains, and hooks. You name it and they had it, even specialty and medical rooms for role playing. MD asked me what devices i found interesting. The two devices that i would have loved to have at the house (though hard to explain to the kids when they are home) were the X-cross and cages. When MD spanks me, i prefer to be locked up so i can’t move. Sometimes MD will make me get across Her lap or just bend over the bed. To me that is more difficult since i know i can raise up or turn around if the pain gets intense and i have to force myself to remain in the spanking position. When tied up, that option is negated and I am truly at MD’s mercy.
i also love the idea of being “caged”. MD has used a closet and a large dog kennel as “cages” before but the ones at the dungeon were very impressive. (One of my most erotic memories was MD locking me in a kennel in our living room as She took Her boy toy to our bedroom to play.) i told MD that i could see us at the dungeon party again and Her locking me in one of the cage in my pink panties, blindfolded and gagged while She went and played with another sub. i guess being caged is also a type of symbol for the way MD is “caging” me in our new lifestyle. She is slowly removing many of the old “adult” freedoms i had and locking me away under Her control. Though not physically caged, i feel my freedoms being restricted or removed.
Our Relationship: (Repeating on Each Blog)
As of 4/7/14, my relationship with my Wife of 16 years, changed from me being naturally submissive to Her to one where we now live fulltime in a “Wife Led Marriage” (WLM) relationship. She is now in total control of all financial, life and daily decisions. She is recognized as the unquestioned authority of our marriage and my life. My role is to be the “sh” to Her “MD”. “sh” is Her way of reminding me that i am Her “sissy”, “submissive”, “servant” and “slave” husband. The MD is “Masteress D (Her name)” or “My Domme”.
I think being humiliated in public is part of what you guys are doing….well, wow.