Yesterday i was getting something out of my billfold and again it dawned on me how much control MD now has over me. i had no money on me. For a lot of men, money is an important contributor to their level of self-confidence (or self-importance in some cases). The past few weeks we have been transitioning my bills and spending to MD. We had always kept separate accounts and each had our own bills for which we were responsible. Last week i gave MD a spreadsheet with the different accounts and how the money has been spent in each of them. MD is working to consolidate them to where She will be making the payments going forward. Right now i have $25 deposited every other week into “my account”. Some of my paycheck is put into a savings account and the remaining balance now goes into MD’s account. We discussed last night that MD is considering just giving me a small cash allowance and taking away my bank card. All i would carry is my allowance, a gas card and an emergency credit card. If for some reason i needed to stop and make a purchase, i would have to get MD’s permission and ask for money or a bank card before i left that day.
Giving away control of finances is an important step in a WLM. It can be very difficult and takes a lot of trust in your Leader Wife. i have no doubt that MD will do an excellent job with our finances. We have noticed that in the last few weeks we already have more discretionary money available at the end of the pay period, but there is still a level of apprehension of not being in charge of “my money”. MD may still ask me my thoughts on a purchase but at the end of the day, She has the final decision on how the money is spent in our house. The next step is MD will be taking over the review of the 401Ks and investment accounts and how the money is allocated. So not only is MD is charge of our present, She is also in charge of our future.
Our Relationship: (Repeating on Each Blog)
As of 4/7/14, my relationship with my Wife of 16 years, changed from me being naturally submissive to Her to one where we now live fulltime in a “Wife Led Marriage” (WLM) relationship. She is now in total control of all financial, life and daily decisions. She is recognized as the unquestioned authority of our marriage and my life. My role is to be the “sh” to Her “MD”. “sh” is Her way of reminding me that i am Her “sissy”, “submissive”, “servant” and “slave” husband. The MD is “Masteress D (Her name)” or “My Domme”.