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Is It Fair? 8/30/14: Is it fair that MD can have sex whenever and with whomever She chooses and i am not allowed to flirt or even look at another woman? Is it fair that She can cum as often as She wants and i am only guaranteed to be able to cum once a year? Is it fair that i have to do all the housework and MD gets to throw things on the floor knowing that i will pick them up? i guess the answer is dependent on what you define as fair.
In most relationships fair is somewhat defined as the 50/50 rule. The idea that each person will have 50% of the responsibility in the relationship. This often symbolized as scales being in balance or as i think of it as the teeter totter example. As long as everyone does their fair share then everything stays in balance. Unfortunately life is not like that. The dessert never seems to get split evenly, someone always gets the bigger piece, just watch any dinner table at Thanksgiving, someone is always complaining about their share and who got more. The same is true in a marriage, things aren’t always in balance. Someone is always doing more in some area and too often feelings get hurt and resentment grows.
In a WLM, there is a different type of balance, i like to think of it in terms of a “zero sum” rule of balance. Instead of measuring balance or fairness in terms of keeping things equal, i see it as “zeroing out”. There are numerous examples of this type of balance. In finance ledger the assets should equal liabilities. In atoms, you have positive protons and negative electrons. In physics, for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. And in a WLM, theoretically MD has 100% control and i have 0%. Again, in real life it doesn’t always work that way and there are some controls i do have, but when we are at our best MD is the positive in the relationship to my negative; She leads, i follow. She commands, i obey. She dictates, i serve.
So to answer the original question – “Is it fair?” For us the answer is yes. It just depends on what type of measurement you choose to use.
Our Relationship: (Repeating on Each Blog)
As of 4/7/14, my relationship with my Wife of 16 years, changed from me being naturally submissive to Her to one where we now live fulltime in a “Wife Led Marriage” (WLM) relationship. She is now in total control of all financial, life and daily decisions. She is recognized as the unquestioned authority of our marriage and my life. My role is to be the “sh” to Her “MD”. “sh” is Her way of reminding me that i am Her “sissy”, “submissive”, “servant” and “slave” husband. The MD is “Masteress D (Her name)” or “My Domme”.