9/17/15:As we were in bed last night, i turned over to start to go sleep, but MD said, “I know you are ready to go to sleep, but I want a glass of water, and it is really about what I want.” MD grew up with the philosophy “others before self”. All of Her life, She has sacrificed and put Her family, friends and other before Her own desires. But now with me, it is “self before hubby” or “MD first”. We were talking about this new philosophy a few days ago, and MD said that though at first it was difficult to get used to this new mindset, it now feels very natural. MD loves the power of being in total control and making me serve Her. She has always felt comfortable making decisions for us, but feeling the right to require me to serve Her and that Her desires overshadow, and may come at the expense of mine is new to Her. i now believe the true success of any WLM is not how well the husband can follow, but how willing the Wife is on leading. i think too often, even though the husband says he is submissive to his wife, if the wife doesn’t feel comfortable making the decisions or choosing where to take them, the husband will soon make suggestions on what She should do to him, or how to lead. So even though the wife is “in charge”, the husband is the one “driving from the backseat”, and it is truly not a WLM.
It has been amazing to see how quickly MD took control in our marriage. But even being in control, there is an adjustment period for both of us to where it feels natural. Though i love having MD be the leader and my Masteress, it takes some time, to make that mindset change feel normal. MD still will catch me trying to make suggestions on what might come next and She has to “put me in my place”. Occasionally, MD will still catch Herself doing something that i easily could have done for Her and She will stop and sit back down and have me do it. Though it may always be a work in progress, seeing MD loving being in total control, allows me to surrender to Her easier.
In the middle of the night last night, MD told me, “Turn over, I want to hold you.” Yes, MD, it is all about what you want!
Our Relationship: (Repeating on Each Blog)
As of 4/7/14, my relationship with my Wife of 16 years, changed from me being naturally submissive to Her to one where we now live fulltime in a “Wife Led Marriage” (WLM) relationship. She is now in total control of all financial, life and daily decisions. She is recognized as the unquestioned authority of our marriage and my life. My role is to be the “sh” to Her “MD”. “sh” is Her way of reminding me that i am Her “sissy”, “submissive”, “servant” and “slave” husband. The MD is “Masteress D (Her name)” or “My Domme”.