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My Birthday Gifts

08 Sunday Nov 2015

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11/08/15:Friday was my birthday, so we both took the day off and celebrated. MD took me to both breakfast and dinner that day and then after dinner to a tattoo shop where i got a new tattoo. (Well actually two!) MD had been working on a design of a combination of a key and crown for several weeks and it was to be placed on my right calf. This way it won’t show at work, but for the 7 or 8 months i can wear shorts, it would be visible to others. The key stands for me forever being in chastity and that She is the key holder. The crown represents that She is the authority and ruler of my life. The crown is shaded in red since MD is a redhead. On the side of the crown are antlers, which represent that i am also Her cuckold. The tattoo came out very well and when it heals i will ask MD if i can post a picture of it.The second tattoo was the updating of a tattoo of the number of men MD has cuckolded me with so far. i got the tattoo several years ago when the number was five, which were represented by slash marks (as in Roman numerals). Since the new total is now 16, which meant i should have gotten 11 new slashes. MD was gracious and instead of doing that She had the tattooist do an X (Roman numeral for 10) before the five slashes and then added a new slash at the end. This tattoo is just above my dick, so i held my panties down to let him do the tattoo; i don’t know if he noticed the chastity cage outline or not.  

In addition to the tattoo, MD got me two pair of pink house socks, and for my special treat, i was allowed to lick Her p*ssy and ass that evening, when we went to bed. MD said that She will be requiring me to lick Her ass far more often now that i am in my chastity cage. MD had not been allowing me to do that since i always got hard when She allowed me to lick Her and She found me getting hard disrespectful. MD had told me that not only did She not want me to cum, She didn’t even want me hard, and when i licked Her i wasn’t able to control myself. Now that i am locked, that is no longer an issue. MD told me that being allowed to lick Her p*ssy would only be for very special occasions. My role as Her sh will be to lick Her ass whenever She wants, while Her p*ssy is reserved for Her vibrator and lovers.

Speaking of my chastity cage, i can’t say enough good things about the Queen’s Keep from Mature Metal. MD had me put it on 10 days ago and i haven’t had it off since. Most chastity cages require a breaking in period, but not this one. MD allowed me to keep the key for the first week, in case any issues came up while at work. Since there haven’t been any, MD took the key back and put it on a necklace, which She wore when we went shopping on Saturday.  

It has been an amazing couple of weeks. A lot of things we had been discussing for a while have now come to final fruition. i am now locked up in a permanent state of chastity and forever marked by MD with a tattoo that will now be visible to others. i am getting to live the life i only could have imagined a few years ago. i love being MD’s sh and now i want to focus on being the best sh possible for Her

A Long Weekend

06 Saturday Sep 2014

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A Long Weekend: 9/2/14: It was an incredible long weekend with MD. We saw family, ate out, went to a new dive bar and hung around the house. Though i didn’t get near enough projects done around the house, it was a much needed restful weekend. i don’t mean restful in the realm of sleep though. For the last three weeks i have been averaging just over 4.5 hours of sleep each night. i go to bed at my normal bedtime 9:30 or 10:00, but am waking up between 2:00 and 4:00 am; Saturday night it was 1:30. i was able to take an hour nap Sunday and Monday, but for the most part, i feel awake and refreshed, just not getting as much sleep as usual.

MD moved my maintenance spanking to last night. She gave me 39 swats and then took me to bed and played with my dick. She first made me lick Her to three orgasms and then played with me for about 30 minutes. MD got me hard and took turns jacking me to the edge of cumming and then spanking my erect dick. It got to the point i was begging Her to let me cum. She laughed and said no and that it wasn’t Her problem anymore that i wanted to cum.

We had a discussion yesterday afternoon (in between MD texting with Her new little college student boyfriend) about how She used to feel sorry for me when She denied me for longer periods of time, but that She doesn’t any longer. She wants to make sure that i am physically ok and that we are emotionally good. She wants to make sure i am not becoming resentful and somehow damage our marriage. i can honestly say that i don’t feel resentful at all. i know the decision MD made was best and though it is sometimes difficult (note that i didn’t say hard), i am working to embrace the reality that i will no longer be MD’s lover.

Our anniversary is next month, so i do have that to look forward to, the one time a year i am now allowed to enter Her. Although, there is also apprehension and dread to a degree. We will also celebrate next month our six month anniversary on our new WLM. That also means in only six months after that it will become official and the contract will be finalized and unbreakable. i will be writing more about the contract in the coming days, but today just want to celebrate the great weekend before i head off to work this morning.

Our Relationship: (Repeating on Each Blog)
As of 4/7/14, my relationship with my Wife of 16 years, changed from me being naturally submissive to Her to one where we now live fulltime in a “Wife Led Marriage” (WLM) relationship. She is now in total control of all financial, life and daily decisions. She is recognized as the unquestioned authority of our marriage and my life. My role is to be the “sh” to Her “MD”. “sh” is Her way of reminding me that i am Her “sissy”, “submissive”, “servant” and “slave” husband. The MD is “Masteress D (Her name)” or “My Domme”.

Changes Part 1

26 Saturday Jul 2014

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I rarely blog, my sub hubby does but mainly from the standpoint of expressing his thoughts to me. he is amazing at putting thought to paper while I prefer to articulate verbally but, I think it gives time to think things through before trying to articulate them to me.

Since April, things have progressed rapidly on our Wife Led Marriage and thought I really needed to get something ‘down on paper’ to sort out all my thoughts.

First, I owe an apology to all those women I use to see that may have ordered for their partners or who told them they could not have another beer and so on. I use to think ‘what bitches, they are so domineering that their partner cannot have a say?” Well, I guess I am now that “bitch” lol. While some of them may have really been bitches, I have to say (and think sh would agree) I am a loving Domme, I am not rude, loud (except in bed), or obnoxious. I get my point across in a kind manner. sh always said, I could tell a person to go to hell and they would thank me. But do not take my kindness as being a push over, because I am not, and have excelled in my career and life because I am driven and know what I want.

If I was someone looking from the outside and they were reading my sh’s post, I would imagine I come across as selfish and do not care about my sh. That could not be further from the truth and have stated in a previous post, I love my guy beyond belief and would do anything to protect him.

I also deny him sex and at first thought it selfish of me but then started to come around to the thinking that actually, it takes off the pressure off of him – he no longer has to try to keep up with me and deal with performance anxiety, he is now free to focus on pleasing me in other ways. From a submissive point of view I do not totally get that, from a Domme perspective it gives me a very powerful feeling.

I also have put some strict rules down on how he interacts with me and when he is away from me. I do this in part as not to confuse him, as a sub really needs to know the boundaries or rules at all times. I say this from experience, having had a couple subs and learning that they needed clear directions on “playing” as well as in real life.

That is it for now as I am off to meet a potential bull 😉

MD’s Perspective on the Big Bang aka Found My Bull

24 Tuesday Jun 2014

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Wow, amazing weekend and love making love to “Joe”. Yup, cam over 40 times, but understand that 4 were the mind blowing type of Orgasms and the rest are what I call my minis. I have always been the type to have a mini orgasm while riding a train or a bumpy road. I am sure it is a medical disorder but I sure as hell am not getting it fixed!

Joe was an amazing lover and great stamina – thank gosh. I can go for hours and have been looking for that one guy that had great working parts, handsome, sexy, and could last more than an hour. Found him!!!

This may be brief, but wanted to through out my thoughts. Joe is already planning our next couple of meetings and I can not wait for our next “session” 🙂

Cumming, MD’s Perspective

08 Sunday Jun 2014

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If you read our blog you saw my sub hubbies’ implied question: “As i was just about to cum She said that i should enjoy this as it will be the last time for a long time. MD said that my previous longest period without cumming would be surpassed (which was 94 days!). She also stated that the next person who came inside Her would not be me. i don’t know if MD was just saying this just to make me cum more explosively or if She was serious. i guess i will find out soon enough.”

Poor boy, little does he know that I have a lover/bull in place that will be satisfying me ;-). So yes, he will have to wait.

MD

Cuckolding from MD

14 Wednesday May 2014

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Why do I cuckold my sh

I did not start out in our relationship thinking about taking another lover, I loved our sex life and loved daydreaming/fantasizing about having sex with only my guy. Well, let me be perfectly honest, and the occasional woman.

When we first started playing with another submissive guy, it did not start out with me having sex with him. But we became close and comfortable with each other (all three of us) that it naturally progressed. Then it happened, there was such a sense of power when I started having sex with the other guy and then add to that the humiliation for my sh when I was having sex with the other guy.

Then it progressed from there, I went out on lunch dates and night time dates with the other guy and WOW. Once while in bed having sex with the other guy, I had my sh tied up to the door and made him watch and between the feelings of power, lust, sexual energy, something new cropped up, I saw a look on my sh face that went from excited to humiliated back to excited and I liked that look. And I LOVED the feeling within me, the power, the confidence, it moved my Domme meter up several notches.

No one could EVER take the place of my sh (husband, lover, best friend, confidant, sub hubby) so plotting to leave with another man just does not do anything for me. I do not even fantasize about leaving and believe me, during my first marriage that is all I ever thought about. But, taking on a lover to cuckold my sh is something that just puts me over the top sexually. MD

Mistress D or ‘MD’ Perspective

11 Sunday May 2014

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I am the Domme half of MDsh and the wife, best friend, lover, and leader of sh.

We are more than just playing with the ‘lifestyle’, we are actually living our dream. My sh (sub hubby, sissy husband) means so much to me that I want to be his protector even though he could more than take care of himself in any given situation. He is amazingly smart, caring, and my sub hubby.

We are real, I am the Domme and he is my sub. I am responsible for every decision in our lives and I take this role very seriously. I am in control of our finances, our direction in life, our future, and his safety.

I did not know what a Domme was at the time, but have been one since grade school. I also, at the time did not know what ‘Bi’ meant, but later found out that I was that also and had been since grade school. I thought about being in charge of girls and boys and was very attracted to both for as long as I can remember. I did not act on my Bi side until I was modeling in my 20’s and with all those gorgeous nude bodies changing clothes behind the curtains it was pretty easy to determine who was also interested in me. Now I say model, but it was only for a nationwide department store and their catalogs (they were a very high end store and yes, you have heard of them).

I have cuckold my sh in the past and about to do it again. I have found a new lover and very excited to play with him. My new lover and I text/talk daily and we are on the same page on how we want our relationship. I will also be actively looking for a woman to be my lover in the very near future as well.

MD

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