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obeying

05 Monday May 2014

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Learning to Obey: For those who have been involved or interested in BDSM, you have probably have heard the phrase “topping from the bottom”. It refers to where the sub is telling the Domme what to do to him/her. This is something i have been guilty of for years. It may not always have been blatant, but it was still there, (but all too often it was blatant.) i might start by telling MD, what my fantasy was and then hoping or requesting that She would fulfill it. It may pressuring Her to do something or purchasing a new toy and hoping She would use it on me. The frenzy of my desires often overshadowed Her enjoyment of being the Domme.

I say this in light of yesterday where I watched from across a restaurant bar as my beautiful MD was on a first date with a potential new lover. They had talked online and on the phone but this was a lunch date to see if things clicked. After about an hour, MD texted me and told me to come join then. MD and “Sam” had a wonderful lunch and She informed me that they would be seeing more of each other. We had a few more minutes of conversation as MD paid for my lunch and then we prepared to leave. Mr Sam walked her to our car and as i started it, they kissed several times and then MD and i left. You could see on Her face that MD had a nice time. In the past i would have peppered Her with questions and tried to work out arrangements for them to get together soon. She told me about the date, but i didn’t make any suggestions about when they could get together again. She asked if i was ok and if i had any questions. i told MD it seemed different this time. Now, it wasn’t about me enjoying the thrill of seeing Her with someone, this time it was all about Her pleasure and if She wanted to move forward, i was all for it, but there would be no pressure from me. MD smiled when i told Her that. This was a big change for me, this time i was not “trying to top from the bottom”.

Obeying is not only about doing what you are told and serving your Masteress, it is also about developing a mindset where Her priorities and desires are foremost in your mind. That is where i am trying to grow and develop to be the best sh i can be to Her.

Relationship – this paragraph is the same at each posting:
As of 4/7/14, my relationship with my Wife of 16 years, changed from me being naturally submissive to Her to one where we now live fulltime in a “Wife Led Marriage” (WLM) relationship. She is now in total control of all financial, life and daily decisions. She is recognized as the unquestioned authority of our marriage and my life. My role is to be the “sh” to Her “MD”. “sh” is Her way of reminding me that i am Her “sissy”, “submissive”, “servant” and “slave” husband. The MD is “Masteress D (Her name)” or “My Domme”.

MD

05 Monday May 2014

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MD: MD told me yesterday that She has also decided to begin writing a blog from Her perspective as the Leader in our WLM. i thought i would describe Her to those who may be reading this blog. MD is an incredible beauty, easily passing for women 10-15 years younger than Her age. She has gorgeous long red hair, sparkling green eyes and an incredible body. MD is an irresistible flirt, a tease and a sexual goddess! (She loves to push me to the edge and then at the last minute stop and make me roll over and go to sleep.) MD is also bi and loves to play with others as well. We used to go to an adult club and She would take me locked in my chastity cage while She enjoyed time with the other couples. Charming and witty, She has a smile that completely lights up a room. She is a natural leader and at work is considered a “top performer”. She has a brilliant mind is also a gifted musician, composer and vocalist. (Having sold songs to various billboard artists and having sung backup vocals on records.)

So, even in saying all those things about MD, what i find most amazing is the ability She has to keep me under Her control. In fact, i now desire Her to be in control. (Maybe desire is not the right word…crave would probably be a better description.) i live for Her praise and am devastated when i disappoint Her. Though at work i am considered a leader and someone who “takes charge”, when i am in Her presence, my desire is to simply serve and obey Her. It is amazing spending all these years of my life trying to be in control, and MD has stripped me of that. But i can honestly say that i have never felt more at peace or felt more secure. i know that MD is in charge and i find an incredible sense of security knowing that i am under Her protection. (That last statement seems so counter-intuitive.) i was raised that the man/husband was the one who should always be the protector, but MD has become that protector in the financial, leadership, emotional and sexual areas of our lives. i look forward to experiencing more the ways MD leads us and trains me to be Her “sh”.

Relationship – this paragraph is the same at each posting:
As of 4/7/14, my relationship with my Wife of 16 years, changed from me being naturally submissive to Her to one where we now live fulltime in a “Wife Led Marriage” (WLM) relationship. She is now in total control of all financial, life and daily decisions. She is recognized as the unquestioned authority of our marriage and my life. My role is to be the “sh” to Her “MD”. “sh” is Her way of reminding me that i am Her “sissy”, “submissive”, “servant” and “slave” husband. The MD is “Masteress D (Her name)” or “My Domme”.

the man

05 Monday May 2014

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No Longer the Man of the House: MD said she doesn’t see me in the role of being the “man” any longer. She went on to explain that she found me sexy, manly, desirable and loved me more than ever, but in terms of being a “man”, she saw me differently now. “Wow!” was my first reactopm, but as i thought about it, how could I argue? i am dressed in panties and nightgowns; wear lipstick and women’s lotions and deodorant; most of my body is shaved; wear a frilly apron around the house; have an 9:00 bedtime and even must ask MD’s permission to go to the bathroom. It has be difficult for Her to see me as a “man”. MD now chooses to refer to me as her “sh” “sissy boy” or “little boy”.

i think that is one of the reasons MD is now considering cuckolding me again and taking a new lover. MD has needs and desires as a woman that need to be filled, but with my new role, that may not be by me. Though we have a wonderful marriage and i am thrilled to be her husband, i am beginning to see myself in a new role that is in the process of being defined. The crazy thing is that i am very pleased and lucky to be able to serve Her in that role.

MD’s sh

Relationship – this paragraph is the same at each posting:
As of 4/7/14, my relationship with my Wife of 16 years, changed from me being naturally submissive to Her to one where we now live fulltime in a “Wife Led Marriage” (WLM) relationship. She is now in total control of all financial, life and daily decisions. She is recognized as the unquestioned authority of our marriage and my life. My role is to be the “sh” to Her “MD”. “sh” is Her way of reminding me that i am Her “sissy”, “submissive”, “servant” and “slave” husband. The MD is “Masteress D (Her name)” or “My Domme”.

Becoming her ‘eunuch’

01 Thursday May 2014

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Becoming Her Eunuch: In our evening conversation a couple of nights ago, MD expressed Her desire was for me to become Her “eunich”. This was quite a shock to me, but She explained not in the literal castration sense, but in the ability not to get aroused any longer. MD wants to limit my ability to have erections. Whether this is through some form of behavior modification or through a chastity type device She hasn’t decided.
MD has kept me in chastity devices on and off for several years. The longest i was locked before was 93 days but even then MD would let me out to wash or tease me and get me hard before putting me back into the chastity cage. Her focus then was more on not allowing me to experience an orgasm. It appears now that MD wants to focus on not allowing me to get hard at all.
The thought of not ever getting to be hard again (or at least severely limited) is very scary. We have discussed that MD’s sexual needs and desires are to be the primary focus. In regards to my sexual desires or wants, they are not Her focus (where they rank on Her list i am not even sure). i await Her decision on what my future holds. Her power and control is amazing.

MD’s sh

Our Relationship (same each posting):
As of 4/7/14, my relationship with my Wife of 16 years, changed from me being naturally submissive to Her to one where we now live fulltime in a “Wife Led Marriage” relationship. She is now in total control of all financial, life and daily decisions. She is recognized as the unquestioned authority of our marriage and my life. My role is to be the “sh” to Her “MD”. “sh” is Her way of reminding me that i am Her “sissy”, “submissive”, “servant” and “slave” husband. The MD is “Masteress D (Her name)” or “My Domme”.

at peace

01 Thursday May 2014

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chasity, cuckold, domestic discipline, Domme, female led relationship, femdomme, flr, sissy, submissive, wife led marriage

At Peace: If you knew anything about my life, the one word you wouldn’t think would describe me is “peaceful”. i am in Sr. Management at a large company and have a highly stressful job. I have been told on more than one occasion that i am “aggressive” in my pursuit of goals and deliverables. There are family issues (deaths, kids, health) that are stressful. Recently, MD and i have rented out our house and moved to a new spot and are in the process of building a new home. But in all the madness and craziness that is my life, i don’t remember a time that i have ever been more “at peace”.

When i think of the term peace, i don’t necessarily think of tranquility and no problems, i think more of the eye of a hurricane. There may be turbulent winds all around, but at that very moment/location it is calm and peaceful. If you move out of that eye, you are faced with calamity and danger. Since MD and i have started a Wife Led Marriage and she is in charge, i have felt that type of peace. It is still very scary to be so out of control. (Something i have always strived for in every area of my life.) But knowing that MD is now in control of me and our marriage it brings me an incredible sense of tranquility i couldn’t have imagined just few short weeks ago.

This morning MD said she was concerned a couple of times last night, since i was not restless or moving in my sleep like normal and that is what got me reflecting on this topic. i have realized that i have slept better and generally wake up early and more rested these past few weeks than i ever remember. Even as I drive into work, i notice i no longer catch myself speeding or being upset if i catch a red light or someone is going slow in front of me.

Even though my life is changing dramatically in ways i could have only imagined a few years ago, there is peace.

Our Relationship (shown on each posting):

As of 4/7/14, my relationship with my Wife of 16 years, changed from me being naturally submissive to Her to one where we now live full time in a “Wife Led Marriage” relationship. She is now in total control of all financial, life and daily decisions. She is recognized as the unquestioned authority of our marriage and my life. My role is to be the “sh” to Her “MD”. “sh” is Her way of reminding me that i am Her “sissy”, “submissive”, “servant” and “slave” husband. The MD is “Masteress D (Her name)” or “My Domme”

my reminders

01 Thursday May 2014

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My New Reminders: Over the past couple of weeks, my MD has purchased several things as ways for me to be reminded of my new status in our marriage.

1)      Sissy gown – She purchased a pink nightgown that has the word “Sissified” across the chest that i wear in the evenings and to bed.

2)      Sissy pillowcase – In addition to the gown, she bought a matching pillowcase for my pillow. So not only am i wearing the word sissified on me, it is the last visual before i go to sleep.

3)      “MDsh” coffee cup – The white travel cup has “MD” in dark letters and the “sh” is printed in light pink. It has the saying on it “I like my coffee like my women…strong, robust and full-bodied”. (My MD is a beautiful and curvy 44DD redhead!)

4)      “MDsh” baseball cap – i wear this in public and around the house.

5)      Stamp – MD ordered a self-inking data stamp with the logo on it “MDsh” “owned since 4/7/14”. She stamps me every morning after my shower.

6)      Lipstick – i have a red tube of lipstick and when returning home, i have to apply the lipstick and show her for approval.

7)      Cell Phone Cover – It is a white case with a printed picture of a woman applying pink lipstick with the word Sephora printed at the bottom.

8)      Billfold – On one side it is a normal looking billfold, but on the front, it has three images of pink panties with the words “I Love to Wear” printed on it.

9)      Apron – Upon arriving home and until i put on a gown i am to wear a black apron with black and white frilly lace at the bottom. On it, the letters “MD’s sh” are stitched.

The possibility of public disclosure is always on my mind when i am out. It is very humiliating going into a store or Starbucks and pulling out my billfold out to purchase something for MD and wonder if someone will see my billfold or when i run into someplace, wondering if MD will call me from the car just to make me answer the phone in public. We are going on vacation in another state in a couple of weeks. MD mentioned she might make me wear something that indicates that i am her sissy/submissive/cuckold hubby.

Our Relationship (same on each post):

As of 4/7/14, my relationship with my Wife of 16 years, changed from me being naturally submissive to Her to one where we now live fulltime in a “Wife Led Marriage” relationship. She is now in total control of all financial, life and daily decisions. She is recognized as the unquestioned authority of our marriage and my life. My role is to be the “sh” to Her “MD”. “sh” is Her way of reminding me that i am Her “sissy”, “submissive”, “servant” and “slave” husband. The MD is “Masteress D (Her name)” or “My Domme”.

my life as MD’s sh

01 Thursday May 2014

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chasity, cuckold, domestic discipline, Domme, female led relationship, femdomme, flr, sissy, submissive, wife led marriage

Relationship (same on each post):

As of 4/7/14, my relationship with my Wife of 16 years, changed from me being naturally submissive to Her to one where we now live fulltime in a “Wife Led Marriage” relationship. She is now in total control of all financial, life and daily decisions. She is recognized as the unquestioned authority of our marriage and my life. Though we already had a Domme/sub relationship to a degree, this change is our relationship is much deeper and meaningful than just as being Domme to my submissive nature.

Role:

My role is to be the “sh” to Her “MD”. “sh” is Her way of reminding me that i am Her “sissy”, “submissive”, “servant” and “slave” husband. The MD is “Masteress D (Her name)” or “My Domme”. She prefers the name “Masteress” as opposed to the more common term “Mistress”. i used to refer to MD as my Mistress, but with my new role, She now prefers the more controlling sound of “Masteress”. As mentioned above, MD now has total control of all decisions. In regards to finances, my paycheck is now being deposited directly into Her account and i receive only a small weekly allowance to buy my lunches at work. i am required to be MD’s servant and make sure Her needs are always my first priority. i am always to defer to MD and never to argue or contradict Her. There are required chores every day that are tracked on a white board, and i am to mark them off as completed. Sexually, MD’s pleasure is paramount. Though She has allowed me one orgasm so far, it has been made clear to me that those will be limited in the future. If i break any rules or don’t complete assignments, i am given demerits. These will be used by MD to determine punishments and limit my privileges.   She has informed me that i will be getting another tattoo to mark our new relationship as the Masteress of the house. (i have one already signifying being cuckolded by Her.)

Rules:

These are some of the current rules that MD has implemented. (Infractions to the rules will result in one or more demerits)

-i am only allowed to wear panties and women’s socks every day (and sometimes when working outside a sports bra). She said will be buying me women’s deodorant in the near future to wear.
-i must keep body hair shaved clean around my groin, chest and underarms. (MD is still considering whether to make me shave my legs.)
-MD chooses or approves my clothes i wear every day.
-i am not allowed to go anywhere without MD’s permission. i must go straight to work and straight home unless She has assignments for me to complete. If i want to request to stop somewhere, (ex., get gas or cleaners) i must request this privilege 48 hours in advance.
-i am to mark completed assigned chores on the marker board before coming to bed. (Any not completed or not marked assignments are a demerit.)
–my bedtime is 9:00 on Sun-Thur and 9:30 Fri-Sat or earlier if she chooses to go to bed before then.
–MD chooses what i eat at meals (at home and in public) and I must track everything i eat in a fitness program which She can inspect.
–i have assigned weight loss goals to achieve each month until i hit my target weight.
–At restaurant’s MD may ask me what i might like to eat, but She makes the final decision and orders our meals and drinks.
–All decisions around money are MD’s and She pays at restaurants or stores since i have no access to money.
–i may not request any alcohol but MD may allow me a drink at Her discretion.
–When told to do something, i must stop whatever i am doing and do it immediately.
–When i get home or MD gets home, i must get down on my knees and kiss MD’s feet as a sign of my recognition of Her authority.
–Every morning MD has a stamp with the date and MDsh and She stamps me somewhere on my body as a reminder to me that i am Hers.
–Any purchase i do make, i must get a receipt and turn them over to Her at the end of the day.
–Upon arriving home from work, i must put on my lacy apron (with MDsh on it) and put on lipstick as my sign of being marked by Her.
–i am only allowed to cum with MD’s permission.
–i am required to sit down to pee when at the house.
–i am to serve her meals first and wait for MD to taste and approve before i can make my plate.
–When at home, i usually have to sit on the floor at MD’s feet when watching TV or when having discussions.

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