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Stepping Up my Game -Part 1

29 Thursday May 2014

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My “Rating”: MD mentioned to me before our vacation that once we got back, She was expecting me to “step up my game” as far as being Her sh. So upon our return, i asked MD how She would grade me to date, in my level of submission and servant hood. Md’s response was that one a scale from 1-10, with 10 being Her expectations, She would give me a “3”. Wow, that caught me by surprise. i thought i had actually been doing a pretty good job the last few weeks. i knew i had things to improve but a “3”!?

It has taken me a few days to accept this fact and understand what i need to do to drastically improve being Md’s sh. i think the hardest thing about being in a WLM, is the difference between “acting” submissive and “being” submissive. When you are “acting submissive”, you are behaving in a certain way or following Her expectations when She is around. But “being” MD’s submissive is also about changing my mindset and the way i perceive things in my new role.

It dawned on me this morning driving to work that a perfect example of my resistant behavior happened this weekend. We went to a grocery store to restock after being gone for a week. When we used to shop the “old me” usually went ahead of MD and i would go get things on the shopping list or scout out what was new on the shelf. MD now expects me to walk with or behind her when we are shopping (but definitely not out in front of Her!) And for a while this weekend i would walk beside/behind Her and then after a bit i would get in front of MD, especially if She was taking Her time looking at something. My reasoning at the time, was that i was trying to help MD find something on Her list and that way i could make things faster and easier for Her. Whether or not my intentions were good or not was not the point, i was not “submitting” to MD’s expectations and instructions, and i was behaving independently and thus counter to who i should be.

Learning to surrender my autonomy to MD and submit to Her complete governance is where i continue to need to grow. In a WLM, the husband can’t be a submissive most of the time, or even 80% to 90% of the time and expect it to work. It is a commitment to the goal of complete dedication every day to submit his actions and mind to his Wife. i have a long way to go…

Our Relationship: (Repeating on Each Blog)
As of 4/7/14, my relationship with my Wife of 16 years, changed from me being naturally submissive to Her to one where we now live fulltime in a “Wife Led Marriage” (WLM) relationship. She is now in total control of all financial, life and daily decisions. She is recognized as the unquestioned authority of our marriage and my life. My role is to be the “sh” to Her “MD”. “sh” is Her way of reminding me that i am Her “sissy”, “submissive”, “servant” and “slave” husband. The MD is “Masteress D (Her name)” or “My Domme”.

Punishment

11 Sunday May 2014

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As of 4/7/14, my relationship with my Wife of 16 years, changed from me being naturally submissive to Her to one where we now live fulltime in a “Wife Led Marriage” (WLM) relationship. She is now in total control of all financial, life and daily decisions. She is recognized as the unquestioned authority of our marriage and my life. My role is to be the “sh” to Her “MD”. “sh” is Her way of reminding me that i am Her “sissy”, “submissive”, “servant” and “slave” husband. The MD is “Masteress D (Her name)” or “My Domme”.

Funishment vs Discipline:
Yesterday MD took me to lunch and then afterward we stopped at a store where She picked up a small journal for Her to use in tracking my demerits and spankings. MD sat me down last night and told me that i would be getting punished for the demerits i had received thus far. She explained i would receive 4 swats for each demerit i had accumulated (which was 13). Now i have received many spankings from MD since we have been married, but this was different. Previous to last night, the spankings were what I considered “funishment”. The spankings may still have hurt, but it was part of our play, it was more for her or my enjoyment. That was not the case last night, last night was discipline. i had to atone for my mistakes and transgressions. MD told me to go get Her various paddles and whips She owns and attach the hand straps to the hook in the ceiling. i did as i was instructed and got everything ready for Her. MD told me to pull down my shorts and panties and lock up one hand and then She locked up the other.
MD began by inserting a butt plug up me, telling me that She wanted to begin getting me ready for Mr. Sam and i would be wearing one often over the next couple of weeks. MD then went behind me and picked out Her first choice of paddles to begin to administer my spankings. Every once in a while She would stop and ask me how many, as it is my job to count. i would tell Her the count and then MD would either change paddles or whips and then begin again. After reaching number 52, MD stopped and told me to think about what just happened and then left the room. i stood there hands immobilized, my ass on fire and feeling totally ashamed for having put MD through this. After a little while, MD came back and unlocked me and gave me a hug and kiss. It was an amazing cathartic moment. i felt relief, clean and loved all at the same time. i thanked Her and She said that “the slate is clean and we start fresh”. i got down on my knees and kissed Her feet in gratitude.
Afterward, we sat outside on the bench and talked. We discussed how each of us felt and MD told me that She loved me more than ever but also what She expected from me. One of the demerits i had received was for looking at something online i shouldn’t have without Her permission (a blog of another submissive husband). MD told me that i was no longer able to do that unless i ask permission and She grants approval. The days of making those types of decisions for myself were over; She now is responsible for making the decisions for me and She takes that responsibility very seriously. MD explained that me being allowed online was a privilege that She could take away at any time. i told MD that i understood and was thankful for the privileges She gave me and i would do a better job at getting Her permission and following Her rules. i sit here this morning typing this blog with a sore ass and grateful heart.

Mistress D or ‘MD’ Perspective

11 Sunday May 2014

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I am the Domme half of MDsh and the wife, best friend, lover, and leader of sh.

We are more than just playing with the ‘lifestyle’, we are actually living our dream. My sh (sub hubby, sissy husband) means so much to me that I want to be his protector even though he could more than take care of himself in any given situation. He is amazingly smart, caring, and my sub hubby.

We are real, I am the Domme and he is my sub. I am responsible for every decision in our lives and I take this role very seriously. I am in control of our finances, our direction in life, our future, and his safety.

I did not know what a Domme was at the time, but have been one since grade school. I also, at the time did not know what ‘Bi’ meant, but later found out that I was that also and had been since grade school. I thought about being in charge of girls and boys and was very attracted to both for as long as I can remember. I did not act on my Bi side until I was modeling in my 20’s and with all those gorgeous nude bodies changing clothes behind the curtains it was pretty easy to determine who was also interested in me. Now I say model, but it was only for a nationwide department store and their catalogs (they were a very high end store and yes, you have heard of them).

I have cuckold my sh in the past and about to do it again. I have found a new lover and very excited to play with him. My new lover and I text/talk daily and we are on the same page on how we want our relationship. I will also be actively looking for a woman to be my lover in the very near future as well.

MD

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Cuckolding

10 Saturday May 2014

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Our Relationship -first paragraph the same each post:
As of 4/7/14, my relationship with my Wife of 16 years, changed from me being naturally submissive to Her to one where we now live fulltime in a “Wife Led Marriage” (WLM) relationship. She is now in total control of all financial, life and daily decisions. She is recognized as the unquestioned authority of our marriage and my life. My role is to be the “sh” to Her “MD”. “sh” is Her way of reminding me that i am Her “sissy”, “submissive”, “servant” and “slave” husband. The MD is “Masteress D (Her name)” or “My Domme”.

Mr. Sam:
MD told me last night that Mr. Sam would be coming over in two weeks (May 24th). There was a conflict this weekend and next weekend we are out of town, so that was the earliest they could get together. MD has cuckolded me before but it has been several years ago. MD had someone She really enjoyed playing with, but he was transferred out of state with his job. MD never really found anyone else She enjoyed as much. Mr. Sam seems to be more suitable for a long term play partner than anyone MD has met since. In addition, MD is excited because he is bi. MD told me She has always had a desire to see me taken by another guy and She has already discussed that with Mr. Sam, who also done that with the couple with whom he was with previously.
This will all be a new experience for me. MD has made me “fluff” and clean up Her lovers before but this will be a first. i am definitely very nervous about this arrangement. i don’t consider myself bi, as i am not attracted to men, but it does excite me to be put in this position by Her. To know MD has the power to make me submit, even to another man. MD ordered me a butt plug to begin getting me ready, it is stainless steel and has a pink crystal at the end. MD also ordered me a pink bedroll to use when Mr. Sam spends the night. i guess i will share more in a couple of weeks.
One more thing about last night. In the middle of the night MD woke me up. She informed me that She was going to use the vibrator on herself and i was to turn over and listen to Her. It was so exciting to hear Her cum. i turned over and went back to sleep after She was through. i have such an exciting MD!

Diapered

10 Saturday May 2014

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Our Relationship -first paragraph same each posting:
As of 4/7/14, my relationship with my Wife of 16 years, changed from me being naturally submissive to Her to one where we now live fulltime in a “Wife Led Marriage” (WLM) relationship. She is now in total control of all financial, life and daily decisions. She is recognized as the unquestioned authority of our marriage and my life. My role is to be the “sh” to Her “MD”. “sh” is Her way of reminding me that i am Her “sissy”, “submissive”, “servant” and “slave” husband. The MD is “Masteress D (Her name)” or “My Domme”.

Diapered
MD order a box of Depends (http://depend.com/mens-solutions/products/12778/) for me. They came in yesterday and last night She told me to try on a pair. MD liked the look and told me to wear them the rest of the night. Before bed i asked if i could go to the bathroom. She told me to stand there in front of Her and go in my diaper, as She wanted to see how well they worked. It was very humiliating to have to pee in my diaper while MD watched. She laughed and said “well I don’t see any leaks, so you can just wear them to bed.” MD then told me if i had to go in the middle of the night to get out of bed and let Her know before i went. MD said She didn’t want any leaks in the bed, especially with Mr. Sam coming over in the future. Fortunately, i didn’t have to go in the middle of the night and in the morning, MD allowed me to take them off and go wash off. The Depends seemed to work well. i am not sure what MD’s future plans are for them, but i am sure i will find out soon enough.

Dancing

10 Saturday May 2014

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Our Relationship- first paragraph same each post:
As of 4/7/14, my relationship with my Wife of 16 years, changed from me being naturally submissive to Her to one where we now live fulltime in a “Wife Led Marriage” (WLM) relationship. She is now in total control of all financial, life and daily decisions. She is recognized as the unquestioned authority of our marriage and my life. My role is to be the “sh” to Her “MD”. “sh” is Her way of reminding me that i am Her “sissy”, “submissive”, “servant” and “slave” husband. The MD is “Masteress D (Her name)” or “My Domme”.

Learning to Follow:
It has been a month today since MD and i committed to a full time Wife Led Marriage. It has definitely been a learning experience. As with any new adventure, there have been a few ups and downs, but it has also been one of the best months of my life. MD asked me a couple of nights ago if i saw this as some kind of game we were playing or has the reality set in that this was the new us. i don’t see our new relationship as something we are “playing at” but it is still a hard to grasp the fact that MD is now in total control of my life. We discussed that even though MD was my Masteress, She was also my wife, my best friend and my lover. Some days MD may be stricter with me as my Domme and some days She may be more lenient depending on how She is relating to me at that time. My role is to respond to Her as She leads me. In my mind i equate it to dancing (which i suck at!) Her responsibility is to lead, mine is to follow. Sometimes the steps may be precise and sometimes the movement may be more free flowing. My role is not to set the pace or style, mine is to follow MD’s lead. i love where we are headed and i will clumsily follow where She leads us.

LCM

09 Friday May 2014

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Our Relationship:
As of 4/7/14, my relationship with my Wife of 16 years, changed from me being naturally submissive to Her to one where we now live fulltime in a “Wife Led Marriage” (WLM) relationship. She is now in total control of all financial, life and daily decisions. She is recognized as the unquestioned authority of our marriage and my life. My role is to be the “sh” to Her “MD”. “sh” is Her way of reminding me that i am Her “sissy”, “submissive”, “servant” and “slave” husband. The MD is “Masteress D (Her name)” or “My Domme”.

My LCM:
Saturday evening, after MD’s lunch date with her potential new lover Sam, She offered to take me to dinner at one of our favorite little places. We had a wonderful time and also did a little clothes shopping for Her for our trip to California coming up in a couple of weeks. When we got home, i finished up a few remaining chores while She had a martini and relaxed outside. After finishing my chores, i joined her for a wonderful end of a very exciting day.
One exiting quality about MD, is that She is extremely sexual. She fantasizes about sex, loves to have sex and is incredible at it. So when we got in bed that night the first thing i was allowed to do was go down on Her. She then told me to raise my sissy gown, put on a condom on (it helps me last longer) and lay on my back. MD then proceeded to mount and ride me. For the next little bit (and boy do I wish it had been longer), MD rode up and down and talked dirty to me, telling me that i better enjoy being inside Her because this may be my last chance for a very long time. She said, “If Sam works out, then there really is no reason to let you back inside me.” With that being said, it didn’t take long for me to explode!! She smiled, kissed me and told me to roll over where She cuddled up behind me and i went fast asleep (or passed out…not sure which).
At 4:00 a.m., my Masteress woke me up and told me to start licking Her again; She was still on a roll. MD then let me get back inside Her and the next 15-20 minutes was mind blowing. She began to have orgasms one after another, almost without pause. Finally, we finished, and She looked over at me and said, “well wasn’t I just a little cum machine”. Yes She was! There is multi-orgasmic and then there is MD!
Besides being married to my Masteress, leader and best friend, MD is also a sex goddess! i can’t imagine my life being any better.